Some things in life are better on repeat: Friends, perfectly sunny beach days, your trusty manicure. Your sexcapades, though? Definitely not one of them. Even the hottest spark in the bedroom needs new sex positions to stoke the flames from time to time—otherwise things get boring, fast.
“Anytime you introduce something fresh and novel into the bedroom, you set yourself up for a more stimulating experience and bigger finish,” says Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex therapist in L.A. In short, your brain craves newness, and especially for women, your brain is very involved in your excitement and satisfaction.
It can also work wonders for your relationship. “One significant challenge to intimacy is the loss of novelty in the bedroom,” says Shawntres Parks, licensed marriage and family therapist in San Diego. Exploration between the sheets amps up emotional intimacy and encourages risk-taking and growth. New sex positions will encourage you and your partner to be more vulnerable with one another in the bedroom and otherwise. And in the end, you’ll find your relationship injected with an extra dose of trust.
In some cases, switching up positions might even be a must. “If you’re thinking ‘ouch’ when the offer of sex is put on the table, you could definitely benefit from exploring diverse positions that are more comfortable for folks with diverse abilities, as well as those with chronic pain, or pain from penetration,” Parks adds. But even once you’ve found that pain-free position, that doesn’t mean it’s your only option. While it’s easy to become a creature of habit as soon as you’ve nailed that go-to, comfortable, climax-every-time position, Parks urges you to keep mixing it up. There are SO many possibilities out there that your imagination might not have even thought up yet.